Zone-In to Your Fear We all tend to protect ourselves from fear. For many of us, hunkering down on your couch, watching the entire Star Wars series can feel like like we're practicing self-care. There's nothing wrong with watching a movie, of course, but when we're feeling fear, we want it to motivate us into action.
It's a better idea to allow ourselves to feel the emotion and figure out what action we can take. Can we reach out to people? If you're worried about your job, can you use this time to imagine where you'd like to take your future career?
When people are afraid, they often deny themselves the challenges of learning and growing—especially at work. Instead, they take up music, they work on their hobbies, they draw and take up art. Of course, this makes them feel great! There's nothing to be afraid of when you're playing the notes you want to hear or drawing the pictures you wish to—but you aren't putting yourself out there!
In meetings, you see people zone out and start doodling in the margins of their notes. Often, it's when they're feeling an emotion like fear. They don't want to face the feeling, so they disengage. They're afraid to speak up, they're worried, or feel like they had an idea shot down by someone. Rather than engaging and confronting the issue, they allow fear to take over, and they zone out.
Right now, it's especially frightening in the business world. A friend of mine is the Chief Operating Officer of her company. She's facing some unprecedented challenges—she's never let people go or put them on furlough. Financial decisions are going on in the company that she wasn't part of. Her fear was causing her to become frozen. She was fearful, hurt, and angry.
But once she tapped into those feelings, she realized, "I'm mad and afraid, but this is what I need to do. I need to go in and fight for my people. I need to get as engaged in the company as possible." Now is the time to work harder and to make yourself indispensable. How can you do even more and fight even harder for your job?